Coming Out: Is it important?

So I know one of the big topics these days is Homosexuality. What with countries around the world starting to legalise gay marriage, it's a topic that's constantly on people's minds. I have a few friends that identify as gay or lesbian and I think it's great that they're able to be so confident and not ashamed of who they are. 
But it also makes me think of people who aren't "out". I wonder because I'm one of them. I've recently (in the last couple of years) realised that I'm bi-sexual. And while I'm comfortable knowing this about myself and have been comfortable telling a few close friends, I'm not so comfortable telling family. 
I've grown up in a Baptist Christian family and my parents have very strong opinions of the LGBT community. Although they claim they have friends in the LGBT community but I fail to see how they could when they have such strong opinions against homosexuality. Every time something comes up on the news especially with the whole equal rights for marriage debate, I just want to blurt out that I have the opinions I have because I'm Bi but I know my parents would think one of two things:
Either they'd think I was just trying to get attention,
or they'd try to talk me out of it.
I don't know what would be worse.....


I've only ever had a boyfriend so I've never exactly experienced what it would be like to be with a girl but I know my family would never understand. My boyfriend and I have been interested to try a threesome with another girl but as he lives with his parents we haven't been able to yet. Which leads me to another thing. I definitely want to have a threesome with my Boyfriend and another girl but I have two things I worry about. One is that I'll get jealous and possessive, something I don't ever want to be. And the other is that I'll end up liking the other girl more than my Boyfriend. I'm slightly worried that if I experiment with a girl even with my boyfriend around that I'll enjoy it to a point where I never want to do things with my boyfriend again. Since I don't actually have any experience with girls I don't know what to expect.....
Maybe time will tell 
As for coming out to my family part of me thinks it would be easier if they knew but on the other hand they seem better off not knowing.....

Book Wars

Have you ever noticed how certain book series lovers tend to turn on others? For example; a lot of fan pages for both the Harry Potter series and the Twilight series. Now I’m a fan of both but quite a few of the Harry Potter fan pages that I’ve “liked” are regular Twilight bashers. One page even goes so far as to have an album in their photo section that is labelled “Twilight Bashing? Yes :D”. Now I understand that not everyone loves Twilight and that’s fair enough. But to go out of your way to hate on something that much is a bit uncalled for. A lot of Harry Potter fans claim that Stephanie Meyer is a terrible author and that J.K. Rowling is amazing. Considering these fans don’t seem to be aware of what it takes to become a published author I don’t think they have the right to comment. As I said before not everyone likes twilight but I know plenty of people who don’t like it but they know that the more they whine about how stupid it is the more they are just drawing attention to it. And I also understand that some twilight fans can be a little grating in the ways that they express their love of the series. But not everybody loves Harry Potter either and yet you see more pages and people that complain about twilight. That being said Harry Potter has had its share of complainers. In different parts of the world Christian groups have tried to get the series banned from schools simply because it contains witchcraft, never mind the fact that it’s a fictional series......

As a budding author it just shows that you can’t please everyone all the time. It also reminds me of I quote I read once: “Better to write for yourself & have no public than to write for the public & have no self." ~Joseph Conway. And he’s right. I’ve found in the past that if you focus too much on trying to please your audience you often drive them further away.   But I have to say: Kudos to both J.K. Rowling and Stephanie Meyer who only seem to focus on the fans and the joy the novels give them rather than on the haters that try to stir up trouble. As a writer though, I do understand it can sometimes be helpful when people critique your work but only when they can do this in such a way that it helps the progression of your work rather than hindering it.

And it's not just Harry Potter stars hating on Twilight. I've seen people that are Lord of the Rings fans hating on both Harry Potter and Twilight. 

As a fan of quite a few different book series' I don't understand how people (who, considering they read a lot, must be intellectuals) can stoop to the whole "my favourite series is better than yours" rubbish. Why can't we as intellectuals all get over the differences? Not everyone is going to love the same stuff. But those that spend all their time talking about how much they hate something are still talking about it. And, for that matter, still drawing attention to the thing that they're supposed to hate. But I don't understand why people have to hate on things in the first place.

If you don't like something, fair enough. But don't waste time trying to convince fans why you think its stupid/bad/waste of time or energy because all it does is start an argument. 

People we have better things to do than fight among ourselves about which book is better.......

Relationships Who's in Who's out

Ok so I'm new to this but I figured a good way to prevent things getting bottled up is to vent online in a blog.....


So I have a problem and maybe if anyone reads this they could give me some feedback on what I could do.
Here goes:


My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years and while we've had our problems we're going strong despite the hiccups.


But my family is giving me hell. We've broken up a couple of times and the most recent time was because someone he'd known in primary (elementary) school moved back to town and he wanted to see if they had chemistry (he'd had a thing for her before she moved). I understood and was willing to step aside. The song Butterfly by Mariah Carey came to mind because of a line that says "Now I understand to hold you 
I must open up my hands and watch you rise." But my family said I should forget about him. 

She recently broke his heart by telling him that she had never cared for him in the first place and only started dating him because she was bored so needless to say they broke up and after giving it a month or so to deal he asked me if I wanted to get back together. I told him yes.

Now comes the dilemma:

Whenever any kind of moral debate comes up in our house (I live with my parents and two younger brothers) the rest of the family brings up the fact that he broke things off to try with her and act like he hurt them personally.

I know that my parents care about me but my question is should a relationship be between the two people involved or should family and friends be able to give their two cents no matter what the topic?

I mean I'm all for my parents looking out for me but I'm not a little kid any more. And regardless of what he did, it was to me not anyone in my family so if anyone has the right to be upset/angry/whatever it's me not my family......

Hopefully someone out there reads this because I don't know how many more times I can listen to their bullshit reasons as to how (other than the fact that they don't want to see me hurt) this has anything to do with them.